Teaching Children Emotional Regulation and Coping with Overstimulation

Close-up of a young girls face who is overwhelmed.

Emotional regulation is a vital skill that children need to navigate the complexities of their feelings and reactions.

It helps them manage their emotions in a healthy way, leading to better relationships, improved focus, and overall well-being.

However, teaching children emotional regulation can be challenging, especially when they are faced with overstimulation. Here are some strategies to help children develop emotional regulation skills and cope with overstimulation effectively:

Understanding Emotions

  1. Identify Feelings: Encourage children to recognize and name their emotions. Use emotion cards or charts to help them identify how they are feeling.

  2. Express Emotions: Teach children that it is okay to express their feelings. Encourage them to talk about what they are experiencing rather than bottling up their emotions.

  3. Validate Emotions: Let children know that all emotions are valid. Validate their feelings and show empathy towards their experiences.

Six cartoon faces by Shannon Parish that illustrate different emotions

Developing Emotional Regulation Skills

  1. Deep Breathing: Teach children deep breathing exercises to help them calm down when they are feeling overwhelmed or overstimulated.

  2. Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness activities with children to help them stay present and focused on the moment.

  3. Positive Self-Talk: Encourage children to use positive self-talk to challenge negative thoughts and beliefs.

  4. Problem-Solving: Teach children problem-solving skills to help them find constructive ways to deal with challenging situations.

Coping with Overstimulation

  1. Create a Safe Space: Establish a designated safe space where children can retreat when they are feeling overstimulated. Fill this space with calming activities like coloring books, puzzles, or sensory toys.

  2. Establish Routines: Maintain consistent routines to provide children with a sense of predictability and security.

  3. Limit Screen Time: Reduce exposure to screens, especially before bedtime, as excessive screen time can contribute to overstimulation.

  4. Physical Activity: Encourage physical activity as a way for children to release pent-up energy and stress.

  5. Sensory Breaks: Introduce sensory breaks throughout the day to help children regulate their senses and stay grounded.

By teaching children emotional regulation skills and providing them with strategies to cope with overstimulation, we empower them to manage their emotions effectively and lead happier, healthier lives. Remember, every child is unique, so it’s essential to tailor these strategies to suit individual needs and preferences.

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Thinking back ...

In reflecting on your upbringing and how emotions were expressed and managed in your home; What do you wish you’d been taught that wasn’t? For me, I wish my emotions would have been validated and I had not been punished for having them. Remember the old saying, “Why are you crying? Keep crying and I’ll give you something to cry about!”

What do you remember and what have you learned? Please share.